It’s amazing how a person can be with someone and think that person is not the right one; his/her true love. I was told by a friend recently that sometimes people settle for second best when it comes to love, especially when the person they want/love is involve/married to another. Now I understand that sometimes the heart wants what it wants and can nobody apart from the owner change that. I also understand that the heart is nothing if not deceitful. You must think about a lot before deciding to spend the rest of your life with someone. The person you want may not be the person you need. I work in the medical field and I see patients come in all the time demanding a brand name medication over the generic no matter what it cost or how it makes them feel. They just want the brand that the like and used to. That’s crazy right? On the other hand, there are patients that will focus on whether or not that medication will work for them? How it will affect them? From that point on, they make the decision on whether or not to use the treatment/medication. Of course with love, it’s not the same but there is a similarity. Though with love, there must be a mutual attraction before anything begin
All I’m saying is that we should think about certain things like:
- · What makes that person different from someone else?
- · Can that person treat you better?
- · Have he/she been there for you?
- · Is it just that overwhelming emotional feeling of being madly in love with that person and can’t see yourself without him/her that makes you feel he/she is the one?
- · Or maybe he/she is better looking.
- · Will he/she stick around during hard times
- · Is she/ he willing to rush over in the middle of the night if you need help?
You make a very good point. But like you said the heart wants what the heart wants. You can try to forget that person who hurt you as much as u want but ur heart is not willing to let go and it affects your way of thinking because when your alone with your thoughts the mere memory of that person is all you think about. And I disagree with you. True love does exist. U just need to know exactly what u want and if u find someone who fits dat description then you know it was meant to be. I know and heard of a lot of people who found their true love. You just gotta have an honest relationship. Remember Communication is the key to a healthy relationship.
ReplyDeleteOh I didn't say true love doesn't exist. Read again. I say it does exist, however a lot of people get stuck on the wrong person.
ReplyDeleteAs far as letting someone go after they hurt you is something completely different. I believe that true love is a mutual feeling. You will not feel that a person is the while the other individual does not feel the same way. If she/he doesn't at the time,it will soon change. If not then she/he wasn't the one. If you're the only one fighting maybe they're not worth the efforts. I know a lot of people as well who has found that one person they can't live without. You're right; communication is key in every relationship, as well as compromising and mutual attraction. I also said that "the heart is nothing if not deceitful" even the Holy scriptures reveal that to us. 'The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?' -Jeremiah 17:9
Don't get me wrong, true love does exist but sometimes we are blind sided by the notion of true love but not true love it self...... because many people fail to fall in love with the person but fall in love with what they represent or what the person wish that individual could represent....
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading this. It makes a valid point. I agree with you that true love exist and that our heart wants what it want. In my opinion, I feel like this society now days is based on lust and not on true love as a whole. What happened to taking your time to get to know the person? It just seems that people want the relation but not the relationship part. We all want a companion. But it really is sad to overlook the person you could of been with and it's too late because he/she is already taken. I think being single helps you figure out what you actually want in a girl/guy that way you can avoid the "he's not for me" later down the line, to a certain extent. But no matter what we go through, love will still be blind.
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